• “Oldest daughter syndrome” is not an official diagnosis, but it can describe how first daughters feel.
• One therapist said the common traits were perfectionism, people-pleasing, and over-responsibility.
• As the oldest of her six siblings, she said she suffers from eldest daughter syndrome.

Oldest daughters often face more pressure than other children, including eldest boys, according to a series of new studies.

Now, many first-time daughters are grappling with the implications of being the biggest sister, from their academic success to who they date. The term “eldest daughter syndrome” describes common feelings of pressure and perfectionism that eldest daughters face as adults.

Annie Wright, a therapist practicing in California, told Business Insider that while it’s not an official diagnosis, “eldest daughter syndrome” can be a useful description and is something she talks about with some of her clients .

It’s also something she can personally identify with: She grew up as the oldest of four siblings before two younger stepsisters joined the family when Wright was an adult.

“I can relate to almost everything 100%,” she said of the characteristics associated with eldest daughter syndrome. Overwhelm, self-confidence and difficulty setting boundaries are all things that she “internalized very, very early on”.

Although she attributes much of her professional success to her eldest daughter’s qualities, she said, “There are really some pros and cons when it comes to this set of personality traits that I have developed.”

She shared some of the most common issues that eldest daughters struggle with.

Being overly responsible in relationships

Wright said the predominant personality trait in the eldest daughters was “high responsibility and caring.”

Eldest daughters often rely on their younger siblings for help, although to varying degrees. Daughters who became parents, for example, might go beyond the occasional diaper change and be responsible for caregiving, organizing household tasks or even resolving family conflicts, Wright said.

“This early caregiving role really shapes their sense of identity and, frankly, contributes to them feeling overly responsible, both in the family and later in adult relationships,” she added.

A lot of self-inflicted pressure

Beyond caregiving, eldest daughters may feel “an implicit or explicit expectation for them to be a role model to siblings,” Wright said, leading them to develop perfectionism later in life.

This can lead to feeling pressure to “succeed academically, professionally and personally,” she said, especially if parents are also overly critical.

On the surface, it can seem like a great thing: Eldest-daughter syndrome is often associated with “Type A” personalities and fantastic organizational skills. Wright says her above-average achievements helped her become the first person in her family to attend college.

However, she said that striving for success often comes at a cost for eldest daughters and “can contribute to their stress, anxiety and fear of failure.”

I find it difficult to ask for help

Because eldest daughters are often praised for their independence, they can develop “a really strong predisposition toward self-reliance,” Wright said. If their caring skills are what make them the favorite child, they won’t want to give up that title by admitting they need help.

Reflecting on her own childhood, Wright remembers feeling like a “good big sister” and “such a helper” as she got diapers for her newborn sibling. She said this can lead to the eldest daughters internalizing the belief that they should handle everything on their own.

This can lead to resentment and a reluctance to be vulnerable. “The people who don’t look like they need help are often the ones who really need it,” Wright said.

People-friendly

While the eldest daughters find it difficult to express a need, they can also take on more responsibility from people who have no problem asking for help. They are often people pleasers who find it difficult to set boundaries.

In her practice, she often advises eldest daughters to start small and set boundaries. “I would invite people to ask themselves where they could step back from caring and allow others to take responsibility for themselves,” she said. “It’s okay to say, ‘I need some time to myself and I can’t help it.'”

Prone to burnout

Eldest daughters are particularly vulnerable to burnout, Wright said. Many of her eldest daughter’s clients realize that the same overachieving and lack of boundaries that helped them achieve professional success can lead to problems later.

In her own experience, Wright’s initial career success turned into challenges with workaholism. “The very things that may be adaptive early in life may prove maladaptive later in life,” she said.

Wright said that being diagnosed with cancer in 2022 “really made me re-evaluate the 80-hour work week.” She also felt like she was missing out on time with her daughter.

Wright began “rigorous therapy” regarding her appearance. “It wasn’t easy at all, nice work, but unfortunately it was a crisis that brought me to the point where I had to start dealing with it.”

The Internationals played inspired golf on Friday – after being defeated on Thursday – to come clean on Day 2 and level at 5 players.

That means Saturday will be even more intense with the first game starting at 7 a.m. ET. Check out times and streaming options below.

FOUR-BALL TOMORROW

Game 1 (7:02 a.m.): Adam Scott & Taylor Pendrith (International) vs. Scottie Scheffler & Collin Morikawa (USA)

Game 2 (7:20 a.m.): Corey Connors & Mackenzie Hughes (International) vs. Tony Finau & Xander Schauffele (USA)

Game 3 (7:38 a.m.): Si Woo Kim & Tom Kim (International) vs. Keegan Bradley & Wyndham Clark (USA)

Game 4 (7:56 a.m.): Hideki Matsuyama & Sungjae Im (International) vs. Patrick Cantlay & Sam Burns (USA)

AFTERNOON FOURSOME

Game 1: TBD

Game 2: Still open

Game 3: Still open

Game 4: Still open

Fans who want to watch the action live can tune in for free with a free trial on FuboTV or DirecTV Stream.

What: Day 3, Presidents Cup

Where: Royal Montreal

When: Saturday, September 28th, 7pm ET

Streaming: FuboTV or DirecTV Stream

MONTREAL (AP) — A quick look at Friday’s Presidents Cup games at Royal Montreal (all times EDT):

THE RESULTS: USA 5, International 5.

THE SESSION: The Internationals won all five foursome games, only the second time in Presidents Cup history they have won a session.

THE STORY: This is the first time since the Presidents Cup began in 1994 that there have been two session sweeps on both sides.

THE BLOWOUT: Hideki Matsuyama and Sungjae Im had a 7-6 win over Patrick Cantlay and Xander Schauffele. In doing so, he tied the Presidents Cup record for largest margin of victory, which was last set in 2011 when Adam Scott and KJ Choi defeated Tiger Woods and Steve Stricker in the foursome.

THE STREAK: Matsuyama and Im had birdies on their final seven holes in alternating strokes.

SHOT OF THE DAY: Jason Day hit a tough pitch from a slightly downhill lie in a muddy patch of turf to within a foot for a conceded par that secured a 1-up win.

MATCH OF THE DAY: Si Woo Kim and Byeong Hun An vs. Scottie Scheffler and Russell Henley. Thirteen of the 18 holes were halved. The Internationals won when Kim made a 15-foot par putt on the final hole.

KEY STATISTIC: The Americans won just seven of the 75 holes played Friday. They only led in one game, and that was by one hole.

NOTEWORTHY: This is the first weekend draw in South Africa since 2003. The Presidents Cup ended in a draw.

QUOTE: “There are 30 points available. Ten of the points have been completed. There are still 20 more to go. The only thing any of us can do is go out there and do our best to try and get a point.” – Scottie Scheffler.

SATURDAY: Four four-ball games in the morning, four four-ball games in the afternoon.

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Dear Eric: I am 80 years old and have been married to the best woman possible for 33 years. We connect and are soulmates. My question is: Why have I been jealous lately of her affair with a 17 year old high school student even though she was 27 and a teacher? This was mentioned a long time ago in our past relationship report. Why has this reactive jealousy consumed me now? I want to know a lot of details about this encounter, but I realize that this will only delve me deeper into my obsession. My constant rumination is putting a strain on my side of our marriage. What can I do?

– Past repeat

Dear repeat: Whenever seemingly random events from the past enter my mind, I always think of the moment in a crime drama when a body floats to the surface of a swamp, only to be discovered years after the initial crime. Like the plot of a crime drama, these mysterious feelings always involve more questions than answers and are never really about what they initially seem to be about.

What your wife did wasn’t appropriate, but it doesn’t sound like this new obsession is about ethical violations. I don’t think it’s even about what happened in the past. If you have the resources, talking to a counselor or therapist about this fixation can help you get to the bottom of what you’re really stressed about. Maybe something is changing in your marriage, maybe you’re worried about yourself or your body. These things are normal and it is possible to change the way you think about them so that the movies stop playing in your head. Your local aging department may also be able to point you to free or low-cost counseling options for seniors

It’s also important to draw a clear line between what’s going on in your head and what’s going on in your marriage. Tell your wife that you can’t stop fixating on this event and also what you plan to do to remedy it. Don’t make your obsession their problem, but if there’s something in your marriage that needs to be addressed, disclosing what else is going on in your head will pave the way for a healthier discussion.

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Dear Eric: About three years ago, a work friend “T” and I quickly became close. T profusely confessed her (platonic) love. I, an untrusting person who usually keeps others at a distance, thought I had found a new “best friend.”

But every now and then, and completely unexpectedly, T slips into “bad girl” mode.

She will make derogatory comments about my appearance, snap at me over seemingly trivial things, and act annoyed and angry during our encounter. In group situations, the irritation seems to focus on my behavior and not that of others.

We had an argument before, after which I ended the friendship. A year later we reconciled when she contacted us. But on a recent weekend trip together, their “bad girl” reared its ugly head. When I told her how it made me feel, she apologized and said it was because I wasn’t listening to her enough.

These episodes are also a painful reminder of my sister, who has a personality disorder and exhibits similar behavior towards me. I eventually had to distance myself from her for my own well-being.

It’s difficult to form close friendships in middle age, and I don’t want to give up my friendship with T, but I can’t continue to feel like her emotional punching bag. Any ideas on how we can handle this situation without losing the good part of our relationship?

– Undermine and over it

Dear Undermining: At some point before she met you, T realized that she should be aggressively mean when she didn’t get the attention she wanted. And she learned that to get someone to like her, she should bombard someone with love. None of these lessons are true, and now you are suffering because of them.

Worse, because T’s behavior mimics your sister’s, it’s likely causing you to put up with it longer than you otherwise would. This is a terrible situation to be in and I’m sorry.

Try talking to T in a non-mean girl moment while setting a clear boundary. Even if she doesn’t feel listened to, offensive language or behavior is a no-go. Tell her that she needs to control herself to maintain this relationship. Ask her if she understands how you feel about this and what her plan is to put your friendship on a healthier course.

If T doesn’t respect your boundaries, your safest bet is to limit contact with her. I hope she can be the best friend you deserve, but for your own well-being, she may be best as an arm’s length friend.

Kim Richards is reportedly facing trouble after being open about her addiction issues for years.

According to TMZ, Kim and her sister Kyle Richards were involved in an argument over the former earlier this week Real Housewives of Beverly Hills The star’s relapse into her alcohol addiction.

A spokesperson for the Los Angeles Police Department confirms to PEOPLE that law enforcement reported an incident in the Encino area on Wednesday, September 25, where a source tells PEOPLE that Kyle owns a home where Kim recently lived lived.

The LAPD tells PEOPLE that officers responded to “keep the peace” after a woman reportedly violated a restraining order. However, after an investigation, they found that there was no order on record and no crime had been committed.

“Both parties were informed of the eviction process and officers maintained the peace,” added officials, who could not confirm Kim and Kyle’s involvement in the scuffle.

A manager for Kim and Kyle did not respond to PEOPLE’s requests for comment.

According to TMZ, Kim, 60, was staying at a Hilton hotel earlier this month until she was taken to Psychiatric 5150 and hospitalized because of her “incoherent” behavior. Kyle, 55, reportedly allowed Kim to stay at her home after her release to help her get back on her feet.

The source reports that the family has cut off all contact with Kim, hoping the shutdown would help her sober up.

Over the years, the reality star has been open about his struggles with alcohol addiction. Her journey to sobriety has long been documented RHOBH.

In 2010, Kyle portrayed Kim as an alcoholic on the first season of the long-running Bravo show. A year later, the actress checked into rehab and again in April 2015 after being arrested for public drunkenness. She left a treatment facility in Malibu for her daughter’s wedding in May 2015, but returned two weeks later.

In March 2016, Kim told PEOPLE that she had her “first real drink” at age 24 and her addiction began when she split from her second husband, Gregg Davis, in 1991. She remembered drinking a glass of wine in the evening and it soon escalated into more. “I realized I was drinking a lot,” she said at the time. “That’s where my problem started.”

A few months later, in December, Kim expressed gratitude for her sobriety. At that point, she had been sober for five years.

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“Before I started the show, life was really good, and then things would happen that didn’t happen,” she told PEOPLE. “And it wasn’t just my relapse that was hard, but also that I went through depression afterwards.”

“I’m just so grateful to be where I am today, to be so happy, to have such a good life and to have the relationships that I have… I feel so blessed,” she said. “I feel powerful. I’m so grateful. Honest. Life is so amazing today. I wake up happy. I’m going to sleep happy.”

CNN — A SpaceX mission set to launch Saturday aims to reunite the Boeing Starliner astronauts with the spacecraft that will bring them home. NASA’s Suni Williams and Butch Wilmore have already been on the International Space Station more than 100 days longer than expected.

The mission, called Crew-9, is on track to lift off from Cape Canaveral Space Force Station in Florida at 1:17 p.m. ET on Saturday. NASA will stream the event live on its website.

The space agency previously postponed Thursday’s launch attempt and rolled the spacecraft back to its hangar as Hurricane Helene threatened Florida and other parts of the southeastern United States. After the danger passed, the mission teams reset everything at the launch pad.

“We got off to a little late start this morning,” Steve Stich, manager of NASA’s Commercial Crew Program, said at a news conference Friday. “We stand vertically on the pad.”

A backup launch window is also scheduled for Sunday at 12:54 p.m. ET in case weather or technical issues force a pause in Saturday’s attempt.

Unlike other routine trips that carry astronauts to and from the space station as part of NASA’s Commercial Crew Program – eight of which SpaceX has already launched – this mission’s outbound flight will carry only two crew members instead of four: NASA astronaut Nick Hague and Roscosmos cosmonaut Aleksandr Gorbunov.

Two other seats remain empty and are reserved for Williams and Wilmore for the spacecraft’s return flight in 2025.

The configuration is part of an ad hoc plan that NASA planned to implement in late August after the space agency decided the Starliner capsule was too risky to return with Williams and Wilmore. The two took the Starliner to the International Space Station in early June for a test flight that was expected to last about a week.

At launch, Hague and Gorbunov will be strapped into the SpaceX Crew Dragon spacecraft, nicknamed Freedom, which sits atop a Falcon 9 rocket. The launch vehicle comes to life, powered by nine massive engines located at its base to propel the 1.2 million pound (544,300 kilograms) rocket system into the air.

After about 2½ minutes, the first stage of the Falcon 9 rocket stops firing and separates from the second stage of the rocket. The second stage then ignites its own engine, further propelling the Crew Dragon capsule to more than 17,000 miles per hour (27,360 kilometers per hour) – or 22 times the speed of sound.

As the crew reaches faster speeds, the rocket’s first stage will retract itself and land on a ground platform in Florida so SpaceX can overhaul and reuse the vehicle.

Once the Crew Dragon capsule reaches orbital speed, the spacecraft will separate from the Falcon 9 second stage and begin maneuvering through orbit on its own, using onboard thrusters to gradually adjust its position, expected to arrive around 6 p.m can connect to the International Space Station Sunday, 5:30 p.m. ET.

Williams and Wilmore watched on September 6 as their Boeing-built capsule returned from the station without them.

Engineers had worked for months to understand the problems with helium leaks and engine failures that had affected the Starliner’s journey to the space station, and NASA ultimately said there were too many uncertainties and risks to allow the vehicle to transport the crew on its way could entrust the return journey. It’s unclear when Boeing’s Starliner might fly again.

NASA remains in the same situation it has been in for four years, with SpaceX the sole provider for the space agency’s Commercial Crew Program, which was designed to hand the job of crew rotations on the International Space Station to the private sector. (Boeing and SpaceX each received contracts in 2014, and SpaceX began operating routine flights in 2020, while Boeing struggled to advance Starliner development to completion.)

To bring Williams and Wilmore home, NASA turned to SpaceX – opting to remove two previously assigned members from its Crew-9 team to make room for the Starliner test pilots.

The space agency announced in late August that NASA astronauts Stephanie Wilson and Zena Cardman would be excluded from the mission. Cardman was slated for her first trip into space and would become commander of the Crew-9 mission.

Gorbunov, a Russian cosmonaut who got his seat through a ride-share agreement between NASA and the Russian space agency Roscosmos, remained on the crew. And Cardman handed over commander duties – the top position in a space flight – to Hague, who had previously been appointed pilot of Crew-9.

“Handing over the helm to (Hague) is both heartbreaking and an honor. “Nick and Alex are truly an outstanding team and they will be ready to step up,” Cardman said in a post on the social platform X, formerly Twitter, after the announcement.

“I only wish (Wilson), Nick, Alex and I could fly together, but we choose without hesitation to be part of something much bigger than ourselves.” Ad astra per aspera. Come on, Crew 9.”

Williams and Wilmore have now integrated into everyday life on the space station. The duo transitioned from a shorter test mission schedule to roles as full-time crew members, with Williams taking on the role of commander in the orbiting laboratory.

Gorbunov and Hague will join them after they dock with the space station on Sunday.

Asked if he was having a hard time adjusting to the prospect of waiting months longer to return home, Wilmore said during a Sept. 13 press conference from the space station, “I’m not going to worry about it.” I mean, it has no use at all. So my transition was – maybe not instantaneous – but it was pretty close.”

Williams said she misses her family and is disappointed to have missed some family events this fall and winter, but added, “This is my happy place. “I love being up here in space. It’s just fun. You know, every day you do something that works, quote it or unquote it, you can turn it on its head. You can do it sideways so it adds a little different perspective.”

Milwaukee Bucks head coach Doc Rivers has been named one of 10 co-chairs of the newly formed Athletes for Harris ahead of the November election, the campaign announced Saturday morning.

The campaign featuring celebrity athletes is expected to run ads at key sports moments leading up to the election, including college and NFL football games and the World Series.

The campaign said Rivers and the other co-chairs would help recruit fellow athletes to the campaign through travel, fundraising and social media.

“To all the athletes out there, don’t be afraid to use your platforms – we need all of you to get involved,” said Earvin “Magic” Johnson, another named co-chair. “Let your friends know that Vice President Harris has an agenda that will move the country forward. The Magic Man is on board.”

The remaining co-chairs are expected to be named later Saturday.

Democratic vice presidential candidate Tim Walz will campaign in Michigan on Saturday and attend the University of Michigan-Minnesota football game before his first and only debate on Tuesday night.

You wonder if Megalopolis has a post-credits scene? We’ll tell you right here: There is no mid- or post-credits scene.

Full spoilers for the film follow here…

Francis Ford Coppola self-financed, prone to controversy Science fiction spectacle Megalopolis has finally arrived, and although critics are divided on the film (at the time of writing, it has one 50% of critics score on Rotten Tomatoes) there’s no denying that it’s full of mind-blowing moments.

This could even include purchasing tickets to the film, where consumers will find they have two options: Megalopolis: The Ultimate Experience and regular Megalopolis. Let’s take a closer look at what the so-called “immersive” Ultimate Experience is all about and what the film’s ending means… and more!

What is Francis Ford Coppola’s Megalopolis?

Directing classics like The Godfather, Apocalypse Now and yes, even Bram Stoker’s DraculaCoppola deserves some leeway when we approach any of the filmmaker’s new projects. He also attracted a full cast of actors for “Megalopolis,” starring Adam Driver as the future Cesar Catilina’s architect, Giancarlo Esposito as Cesar’s rival mayor Franklyn Cicero, Nathalie Emmanuel as Julia Cicero, the mayor’s daughter and Cesar’s lover, and Aubrey Starring Plaza as Wow are Platinum, part financial reporter/part Access Hollywood host, and Shia LaBeouf as Clodio, a cousin of Cesar who craves his power and influence. Other familiar faces appearing in supporting or very small roles include Jon Voight, Laurence Fishburne, Talia Shire, Jason Schwartzman and Dustin Hoffman.

Set in a futuristic version of New York City, now called “New Rome,” Megalopolis details the details of Cesar’s battles with Mayor Cicero (and others) over how best to develop the city and help its masses and how to do so The best way to rebuild is after a Russian satellite fell from the sky and destroyed large parts of the skyline. In an on-screen title card, Coppola presents the film as a “fable” but is clearly trying to reconcile the fall of the Roman Empire with the current development of the United States.

Or so.

Honestly, Megalopolis is as confusing as it is ambitious, convoluted in parts but visually cool in others. But what does it all add up to in the end? Read on…

The ending of Megalopolis explained

Did I mention that Driver’s Cesar can stop time? Yes, amid all the Shakespeare quotes and psychedelic trips that take place in the film, Cesar has the unique ability to stop time. Normally just Robert Hays and residents of the Twilight zone can pull off this trick, but when we first meet Cesar, he barely saves himself as he climbs off the edge of the Chrysler Building by… yes, freezing time with just a few words.

He’ll use this trick from time to time, but in reality it’s his discovery of something called Megalon that is his true magic. This super element allows Cesar, as head of the city’s “Design Authority,” to create a vision of the utopia he wants to transform New Rome into. (This vision kind of looks like a planet Doctor Strange would visit, but whatever.) This contrasts with the mayor’s more strict approach to improving the city – namely, he prefers the old-fashioned way of not changing much. And then there’s Voight’s rich guy Crassus, whose money is needed for the vision of whoever wins.

Over the course of the film there are many verbal and positional battles, culminating in an assassination attempt on Cesar in which half of his face is blown off. But Megalon is used to reconstruct him, resulting in a glowing half-face that’s even weirder than the scenes in which the characters are Strictly speaking stumble.

However, Cesar has other problems, namely that Shia LaBeouf’s Clodio has teamed up with Aubrey Plaza’s Wow to close Cesar’s bank accounts, while also forcing Crassus (whom Wow married earlier in the film in a futuristic Coppola wedding sequence) into retirement, to take control of his assets. Clodio has also developed a personality cult directed against Cesar, thanks to his promises that he will improve the lives of the city’s common and oppressed citizens, even if he doesn’t actually care about them.

Crassus appears to have suffered a stroke at one point, but we soon learn that he was faking how badly he was affected by the incident. This leads to Wow and Clodio being surprised in Crassus’ bedroom as he pulls out a bow and arrow and kills his wife. An injured Clodio escapes, but he is apparently murdered by a rampaging mob of his followers who chain him up.

With Wow’s bloodied body still lying on his bedroom floor, Crassus decides that he wants to be remembered as a “good man” and decides to finance Cesar’s utopia plans. Meanwhile, Nathalie Emmanuel’s Julia has married Cesar, despite the protests of her father, the mayor, and they have a child together. Cesar gives an impassioned speech to the people of the city, and the mayor realizes that he can no longer fight Cesar – especially now that he has Crassus’ support. And what’s more, they are now related by marriage!

As the film nears its end, Cesar, Julia and their baby are joined on stage by the mayor and his wife as the New Rome crowd cheers them on. The stage is set for Cesar’s utopia (there’s a magical hiking trail and everything!). Cesar asks Julia to stop time (she seems to have the ability now too), which she does… but her baby is strangely unaffected and continues to move while everyone else is frozen. A title card appears with a pledge of allegiance…to planet Earth. And then the credits roll.

Why isn’t the baby frozen like everyone else? As with much of Megalopolis, this is probably a more metaphorical reading of events. Cesar and Julia’s child represents the future they have worked to improve for all the generations that will one day live in New Rome, and so the ball is now in their court – starting with this baby!

What is the Immersive Megalopolis: The Ultimate Experience?

For decades, Coppola has wanted to change the way films are produced and distributed. His production company American Zoetrope (formerly known as Zoetrope Studios) was founded as a way to work outside of the Hollywood system, and although things never quite worked out for the filmmaker for various reasons, we still see him experimenting now with Megalopolis.

Megalopolis: The Ultimate Experience is an option in some theaters across the country, which includes a unique version of a scene in the film in which Adam Driver’s character speaks to offscreen reporters. In the regular version of the film, voiceovers play these reporters. But in the “Ultimate Experience,” what Lionsgate calls “live attendees” actually appear at the front of the theater to interact with Driver on screen and ask questions while the filmed image of Driver responds. Some of these “live participants” also reportedly have a spotlight or microphone for their dialogue.

Indiewire provides a good breakdown of this interesting aspect of Megalopolis’ release if you’d like to learn more. You can also see what it looks like in the video here:

the interaction scene with the audience in a big city. Love it or hate it, that’s a fucking boundary crossing. pic.twitter.com/zGKIHqwoy6

— Bbm7 (@leche_ninho) September 24, 2024

Does Megalopolis have a post-credits scene?

No, as already mentioned, there are no post- or mid-credits scenes in Megalopolis.

But what did you think of the film? It’s a real doozy, isn’t it? Let’s discuss in the comments!